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. eat to live, or live to eat? .

July 23, 2011

Hi friends! πŸ˜€

Aaaah you guys are wonderful. Thank you for being so sweet and supporting my survey addiction by playing along and sharing your own answers. What would I do without ya?

As for the hush-hush info that I was going to share with you, the news is that… well, that there is no news 😦 I thought that I had found a new place to call home, but after some careful consideration, it turns out that it wasn’t exactly what I wanted, so I decided to pass.

Unfortunately, that means that there’ll be more running around like a headless chicken in my immediate future, which means that a lot of my meals/snacks will continue to be eaten in this manner:

Love it. Except not really.

I’m the kind of person that likes to sit down and enjoy a meal, like so:

[buckwheat kasha with sautΓ©ed mushrooms, onions, and spinach, topped with sunflower seed butter; roasted asparagus coated in olive oil and garlic, topped with marinara sauce and hemp seeds]

Even though I rarely ever actually sit down at the table to eat (hello desk, couch, bed, etc.), I still like to be able to enjoy my food in a leisurely manner – I hate feeling like I have to rush through a meal.

Why?

Well, because I eat slow, for one thing. Ever since I was little, I was always the last one to get up from the table; it’s just how I work. And for another thing, eating too quickly makes me enjoy what I’m eating a lot less. I like to savor my meals, to make the act of eating an experience as opposed to a mere necessity.

[Greek yogurt with a muffie salvaged from the depths of my freezer]

Unfortunately, that’s not always possible. School. Work. Obligations. Errands. LifeΒ shows up and gets in the way. You can’t always eat when you want. You can’t always eat where you want. And you can’t always eat what you want. Le boo.

I used to have a bigΒ problem with this. When I was recovering from my eating disorder, I basically lived to eat. My whole day revolved around my scheduled meal times, as I would haveΒ to be at home at certain times so that I could eat certain things. Grabbing something while I was out was out of the question, and packing snacks? To be honest, most of the time I would rather pass on whatever it was that required me to be out for extended periods of time, and choose to stay home instead. Home, where I could eat whatever it is that I wanted in peace and quiet.

[Greek yogurt, fresh strawberries, Kashi GoLean]

Obviously, that’s neither a very practical or realistic approach to life. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to savor and enjoy a meal, but there isΒ something wrong when that’s allΒ that you want.

Food isn’t simply fuel, but neither is it life. I don’t believe that we should only “eat to live”, but neither do I believe that we should “live to eat”. A balance needs to be struck, and I’m still working on finding mine.

My days no longer revolve around scheduled meal times, but they do tend to be influenced by them. If I have a lot of errands to run, I usually try to take care of them in a way that will allow me to come home for lunch/dinner. If I want to exercise, I usually try to do it after I’m able to eat a snack. Sometimes things work out the way I want them to, and sometimes they don’t. The difference is that now I’m actually able to adapt to situations where I can’t have my way, whereas before I would simply pass on them. Snacking in the car and packing lunches may not be my favorite thing to do, but that’s life…

Suck it up, smile, and enjoy πŸ˜€

[eggy bananfied steel cut oats, a fresh peach, melted coconut butter, cinnamon]

. – . – . – .

What’s your take on the whole “eat to live” vs. “live to eat” issue? Should food simply be seen as fuel, or is it something more? And how do you balance the two?

Do you eat more of your meals/snacks at home, or while you’re out? Which do you prefer?

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  1. July 23, 2011 7:03 pm

    I eat to live. Food shouldn’t be the center of life or thought, in my opinion.

    With dance, I eat a lot of my meals at practice or traveling at competitions (in the form of snacks/small bites). Otherwise I eat at home.

  2. July 23, 2011 7:06 pm

    Such an interesting concept, I’ve never really thought about that balance before yet it’s so important. I definitely agree that there needs to be a balance and it’s definitely something I need to work on. I often savour my foods and like to be home to enjoy them, however this summer with working 8 hours a day I have really learned to go with the flow around meal times and such.

    I have never had buckwheat kasha before, but that clearly needs to change since your looks so amazing!

  3. July 23, 2011 7:13 pm

    I love the fact the food brings people together. I wouldn’t say that I live to eat, but I’d definitely say it’s a major part of my life and I definitely try to make it an experience by sitting down and enjoying my foods πŸ™‚

  4. July 23, 2011 7:14 pm

    i love diving into the back of my freezer to see what lurks..its always a mystery and ALWAYS a surprise πŸ™‚

    ive gone between what is right- eating to live or having a little bit of living to eat. so ive come to a consensus within myself- i must always eat to live but i choose to make a little of my life about eating. i definitely keep my focus on what things besides food sustain me and improve my life…and at the same time i remember that its okay to love food and think about food…but the line between thinking and obsession shall not be crossed πŸ™‚

    XOXO ❀

  5. July 23, 2011 7:18 pm

    I actually don’t look into it, I just live each day and really don’t look deep into things like that, I just know I like to eat and food makes me and my body very happy : )

    Sorry about the news on the apartment, it wasn’t meant then girl, another place will come along!

    Love u! Have a great night!!

  6. Alexandra permalink
    July 23, 2011 7:24 pm

    Interesting post my dear! I used to live to eat during my ED, now I eat to live and feel so much better πŸ™‚ Sorry to hear about the apartment, maybe something bigger and better is out there waiting for you! Hope you’re having a great weekend, love πŸ˜€

  7. July 23, 2011 7:35 pm

    I definitely agree with you here. I think it has to be a careful balance. You don’t want your life to revolve around meals necessarily, but what is life without food? It brings joy, pleasure, fuel.

    I think it’s perfectly healthy to try and plan your day around meals. Wanting to be able to eat what you’re craving when you get hungry is totally okay! It crosses the line of “healthy” for me, though, when- if your plans were to go sour- you can’t / refuse to adapt to the situation.

    I very much enjoy eating my meals like you- at home, in front of the computer or a TV. It sounds terrible, but I love watching my favorite shows over a good bowl of oats. Plus it slows me down eating when my mind is occupied by more than just my food. I tend to be… a shoveler. HAHA! When I like what I’m eating I have trouble putting the fork / spoon / spork / spoo-icks (lol@myutensils) down, and before I know it I’m scraping the last bits up! I wish I was naturally a slow eater, I seem to always end my meals wishing I’d slowed down to savor them a bit more. Eeep!

    By the way- I picked up the banana split mini (ohmigoshBABYSIZED!) So Delicious ice cream sandwiches, AND I picked up their soy chocolate ice cream. Nomnomnom. I’ve missed my ice cream….

    Love you girl! You never cease to inspire me / provoke thought.

    • July 24, 2011 7:31 am

      Argh so jealous! But I’m glad that you’ve been enjoying your ice cream πŸ˜€ Life without it (especially in the summer) is just criminal. ❀ ❀

  8. sarah permalink
    July 23, 2011 7:42 pm

    When it comes to looking for an apartment I definitely think you have to be 100% certain its what you want- rash decisions= disappointment and regret. You will find a lovely place( with wonderful lighting to take amazing foodie pics no less!) Soon enough, I’m sending you luck!
    I pretty much struggle with the whole live to eat thing-my days do pretty much revolve around my eating(& exercise )schedule. I pass up a lot of opportunities to be home at certain times to eat certain things- like you said. Something to work on I guess.
    That buckwheat kasha dish looks YUM! I need to eat more grains- I love’em but always forget about them/ can’t be bothered making them-i think ill try that dish.
    Xxx

  9. July 23, 2011 7:45 pm

    You are so lucky that you’re a slow eater…..I eat like a maniac! WAY to fast! But I am working on slowing down πŸ™‚

    To me food is more than just fuel….its something I really enjoy and look forward to! Some people may say that stuff like that shouldn’t be applied to food but thats just the way I feel about it. I lOVE food!

  10. July 23, 2011 7:57 pm

    I agree with you in that it should be a balance between the two. Yes, food is fuel but food also brings pleasure and is something to be enjoyed and often to be looked forward to. But when it gets to the point that all you think about is food (in my experience) it’s definitely not a good thing. Balance is the key here! I eat most of my meals at home but that’s only because I work part time. There are days (like today) where I have snacks and dinner out because I’m enjoying time with friends. I enjoy going out for a hot chocolate with friends and stealing their marshmallows as well as going to a restaurant and disturbing everyone around us with the flash of my camera. I HATE eating “on the go” though. But sometimes you just gotta do what ya gotta do.

    xxx

  11. Katherine permalink
    July 23, 2011 8:05 pm

    I definitely have to learn to eat slower and savor my meals instead of just eating them quickly to get it over with.

  12. Jenn permalink
    July 23, 2011 8:15 pm

    You’re a genius!! I love how you worded this post. It really made me think. I believe you’re absolutely correct, there’s a balance. I struggle with that a lot, making my life about meal/snack times, and when I can’t eat them at home relaxing and not rushed, it’s so frustrating. How do you get over this though?

    • July 24, 2011 7:37 am

      It actually started to go away on it’s own once I started eating more and got to a healthier weight. When the body is starving, the only thing that it wants is food, which is why we start to obsess and stop caring about everything else. But when the body gets what it needs, it allows you to move on with life and you start to take pleasure in other things besides food. When I was sick, all I cared about was eating… I lost interest in all my hobbies and the things that I used to love. When I got healthier, all my other interests came back, and I got pleasure and satisfaction from more than just eating lunch or dinner. It’s all part of recovery πŸ˜€

  13. July 23, 2011 8:24 pm

    I’m a slow eater myself unless I’m starving and it’s like 7:00 PM and I haven’t had dinner yet.

    I thing I eat to live now. When I did have an eating disorder, my day revolved around food except I didn’t eat until dinner time. It was crazy.

  14. July 23, 2011 8:25 pm

    Looking for an apartment can be such a pain in the… butt. This time I decided to skip this part. I just said yes to the first place my future flatmate found and even though it is not perfect, I am sure I can make it feel like home. After all, I have lived in much worse places during my university years πŸ˜€ . But if you are planning to live there for long, you’d better not say yes before you are completely sure it is the perfect place for you. I wish you luck next time.

    As for eating on the run, I hate it. I can’t really feel the taste of the food when I am eating while working, walking or even riding my bicycle (one hand on the handle-bar, the other holding the so called meal). My social life used to suffer a lot in the past because “I can’t hang out with you, guys, because I have to go home to have dinner.” Now I don’t let this control my life but I still prefer eating leisurely at home.

  15. ittybitsofbalance permalink
    July 23, 2011 8:30 pm

    I definitely eat to live– and I think once you cross the line and begin living to eat, eating disorders erupt.

    I love preparing my own meals at home because I can moderate my portions and see all of the ingredients that actually go into the final product.

  16. bakebooks permalink
    July 23, 2011 8:52 pm

    Ooooh – touchy subject for me – no comment! But just wanted to say I LOVE your pics. …and I seen your reading “The Alchemist” and it’s on my list!

  17. July 23, 2011 8:55 pm

    I agree with their being a balance between the whole food issue. It technically is fuel, but there is something more to it πŸ™‚ I like to prepare and eat at home too! I love to create and tweak things my way and see how it turns out.

  18. July 23, 2011 10:29 pm

    I’m striving towards the “eat to live”mantra, but in an enjoyable, healthy, & balanced way. πŸ™‚
    I esp. like my breakfasts to be prepared and eaten leisurely at home. I do ilke to take my while eating unless im super hungry. I also think its fun to dine out and get things on the go/ bring a picnic.

  19. July 23, 2011 10:38 pm

    Being someone who has struggled with disordered eating, I have to focus more on the “eat to live” mantra because food easily becomes too much of an obsession. Sometimes, I have to remind myself it’s just food, and there are SO many more important things to treasure and fixate on!

    Of course, it’s got to be a balance. Food is meant to be enjoyed. But I have to believe it is not meant to be the center of our lives.

  20. July 23, 2011 10:59 pm

    Oh, so sorry about the apartment situation! I really hope it works out for you soon!

    I agree- there should be balance between eat to live and live to eat. Although I have some issues with the whole eating thing, I dont want to see food as just fuel. I am like you- I need to be able to enjoy my food, or else Ill skip it. I prefere to be home (maybe thats why I stopped eating at work for so long..) and be able to eat slowly and enjoy whats on my plate. Im happy to see that you feel free enough to eat in other situations now. LIfe isnt always at home (and how sad would that be?), its all about balance!!
    ❀

  21. July 23, 2011 11:17 pm

    Obviously food serves more than a purpose besides fuel- it’s often part of a social event/gathering, serves as a creativity outlet, and many other purposes. However, I think we need to eat to live more than live to eat–unless all your aspirations and your career are based around eating. I think of food as an enhancement to life- it’s necessary so I make it as fun, creative, and wonderful as possible 90% of the time (the other 10% is when I have to eat out of need- like grab n go snacking etc).

  22. Lenna (veganlenna) permalink
    July 23, 2011 11:37 pm

    I love your approach to this and I am so glad that you have found your way to balance eating and living!
    I think that food IS a fuel, thatΒ΄s without any questions. But at the same time, especially in times of cooking shows, cook books, fancy restaurants etc. is food something more, it is a culture of itself, it is a favorite pastime to many people, it is a popular conversation topic. Lives of many families revolve just around eating, often meal times are the only times when people sit together around one table and spend some time together.. So when eating is such a big part of our lives (because it is impossible to stay uninfluenced by that all), we should really try to find a balance, because we donΒ΄t want to be slaves for our meal times, but we still want to enjoy a good food with our family/friends/alone..
    I prefer eating at home, because I also need to have my time, eat slowly and sit with my meal, not jut run around in a stressful manner. But sometimes thereΒ΄s no other choice than to pack some snacks or to eat in a caffee/restaurant..I am trying to be ok with that as well πŸ™‚

  23. July 24, 2011 12:06 am

    i love that you said that you’ve found an in-between place between the whole “eat to live” and “live to eat” mentality – i totally agree, because while i think food IS fuel – and will always be fuel, i think food is also a pleasurable and social experience. sometimes, when i’m busy and in a rush, food is merely fuel; other times, when i’m meeting up with a friend and not hungry, i still eat because i want to socialize and hangout. i will always be passionate about food and cooking, so in that sense part of me does live to eat, but that’s not all i live for – eating is just one aspect of my life – and i do like it that way! love your thoughts as always.

  24. July 24, 2011 12:23 am

    I used to be just like you in the sense that I planned my whole day around what and where I would eat. Too be honest after a while it DID get really tiering – because there were so many things that I wanted to do that I couldn’t because of my meal schedule.

    On the other hand I do enjoy taking the time to savor my food and I try to do that as much as possible. But when necessity demands that I grab something in a hurry I won’t just skip a meal because I “can’t enjoy it”. Food is necessary, even if it’s not always as enjoyable as we’d like it to be.
    I used to eat mostly at home until I started working. Now it’s been more or less on the job – with the exception of breakfast of course. And I work with it! Sure first it was hard to know how to juggle and fit everything in – but now I’m more or less used to it. And it feels a lot better to be “free” then having all sorts of food rules that keep you from living your life.

    Great post !

  25. July 24, 2011 4:45 am

    Ah I remember a few months ago I would refuse to eat anywhere but home. I refused to bring any snacks with me to school and wouldn’t eat from 6am-2pm most days. Now I bring lunch and snacks with me every time I leave the house, I can’t go 3 hours without having some kind of substance! I prefer to eat at home still because I’m also a slow eater and I like to enjoy my food as well.

  26. July 24, 2011 4:46 am

    I think your so right about having a balance. I love my food and making time to take over eating it and really enjoying it as I often don’t feel fully satisfied if its rushed. I prefer eating at home for that reason! I think a balance is very important especially when you work, sometimes I am literally wolfing down a snack bar between work meetings just to make sure I’m fuelled for my workout later, I don’t get a lot of joy eating like that, but sometimes that’s the way it has to be. I think food is such a multi faceted thing, yes its fuel but its also pleasure, a way to connect to the environment, our bodies, life itself even, but at the same time it is still just food, I guess that’s where the balance comes in πŸ™‚ Great post x

  27. July 24, 2011 5:07 am

    Aw sorry the apartment didn’t turn out to be ‘the one’ lovely, you’ll find it soon I promise! And it will be soo worth it πŸ™‚
    Hmm this is a really interesting topic. Obviously having an ED and in recovery in the past food became very much fuel, almost like a medicine and I struggled to ever see how food could become enjoyable again, especially after going through the hellish routine of being an inpatient. It definitely felt like I was just living to eat because that was all that I was doing and it felt terrible. Now I’m finding a balance of enjoying my food, trying to not stick to a routine, taking time to think of inventive flavors, and simply taking life as it comes and food just being a part of it to keep me going.
    I much prefer to eat my meals/snacks at home as it means I can take the time to enjoy it more and also I love reading blogs or magazines whilst I eat πŸ˜› If I haven’t packed something and I’m out and about, I start to get panicky if I start to feel hungry because I hate the feeling of hunger now. Definitely something I need to work on..

  28. July 24, 2011 5:24 am

    I really don’t like eating out–glad to know I’m not alone b/c my family things i’m actually crazy…they eat out almost every meal, every day. i just find comfort in making everything myself, getting the portion size i want, etc. live to eat, eat to live…i’m finding balance too and it’s so hard–i think it just takes time and a certain attitude πŸ™‚

  29. July 24, 2011 5:43 am

    I think it’s really tricky to strike that balance…
    I don’t want to “eat to live”, because to me, that takes the enjoyment out of food!
    and “live to eat” is just as bad! How about EAT & LIVE? That sounds good to me πŸ˜€

  30. July 24, 2011 6:30 am

    I totally agree that there needs to be a balance between the two! I used to live to eat too – like you, I would totally schedule my day around food and always make sure I was home for my meals/snacks. I’m a lot better about it now, but sometimes I still do it. But it’s mostly because a) I have to worry about my allergies and b) it’s a lot cheaper to eat at home!

  31. July 24, 2011 7:02 am

    Im sorry to hear about the apartment but im sure something better is waiting for you! Im a true believer that everything happens for a reason!
    I too agree that there needs to be a healthy balance between the two – living and eating in a healthy manner! I too prefer to have many of my meals at home.

  32. July 24, 2011 7:09 am

    I do prefer to eat at home– just because I can eat what I crave, and I like eating in privacy… it makes me a bit uncomfortable to eat around other people (old ED habit? Not sure…). But I definitely agree that there should be a balance between eating to live and living to eat— food is NOT just fuel, as you said, but it should not consume your life (been there, done that, no fun!)

  33. Jess permalink
    July 24, 2011 7:28 am

    im so sorry to hear about the apartment. ;( I cannot imagine how stressful it must be. I just hope that you find your perfect place sometime very soon πŸ™‚
    I definitely relate to this, obviously suffering from and eating disorder myself, I have in the past found it much easier to stay home and have food as my only focus and that I could eat anything I wanted whereas being out didnt always give me my safe foods. But your right in what you say, it is absolutely no way to live your life, and your life shouldnt revolve around food. Im finally learning that.

    Love Jess

  34. July 24, 2011 8:05 am

    This is really interesting! I think that food should be enjoyed…but I also think that the foods we eat should be ones that fuel us (at least most of the time…indulgences should still happen). I’m not really sure how to balance them…but all I know is that if I thought of food only as fuel, I don’t think I would be too happy out it. I like my food…and I should be able to enjoy it. What is life if I don’t?

  35. July 24, 2011 8:42 am

    Hmmm, I think there are downsides to both. I would like to say I live to eat, but I also live to do many many other things that I love. I love food (obviously), but it’s not the sole obsession in my life. That’s not healthy. I hate having to eat while driving. I’m a bad enough driver when I’m not digging into a jar of almonds (which I was totally doing on the way to work yesterday…).

  36. July 24, 2011 9:35 am

    I’m a pretty slow eater too. I eat my morning bowl of oats while reading blogs which usually takes at least 30-40 minutes. Gotta love distractions πŸ˜€ I don’t think food should only be viewed as fuel because it brings pleasure and joy, but I don’t think it’s good to only live to eat either. A balance between the two is something I’m looking for as well. I used to panic when I wasn’t able to be home and eat a meal. I enjoy being at home to have a meal much more than grabbing something on the go. Lately I’ve learnt to pack a granola bar or a snack with me. Although, I still forget sometimes and don’t enjoy it as much, I’ve found a way to deal with it instead of dragging through my days without energy because I’m not at home having my set meals. I’d love to hear what kinds of snacks you pack. I’m getting sick of my granola bars haha.

    • July 24, 2011 1:47 pm

      Haha I suck at packing snacks as well. I can’t eat a lot of the bars out there because of my allergies to peanuts, so I usually have to make my own. This is where cookies, muffins, cookie dough balls, or a banana with a jar of almond butter come in handy πŸ˜€

  37. July 24, 2011 10:09 am

    In order to fully enjoy a meal I must be sitting down at a proper tablesetting. I learned this from reading “French Women Don’t Get Fat” and really, I could never go back to eating Taco Bell on my commute. And yes, I used to do that daily – gross, right?

    Most days I eat to live but when I’m on vacation or on a business trip I definitely learn to enjoy food more and I end up living to eat. I did this the entire last week!

  38. July 24, 2011 10:19 am

    I’m definitely an eat at girl home. I love to eat at my house or at least my bf’s house. I really don’t like eating on the go or in a hurry. All your meals look delish πŸ˜€

  39. July 24, 2011 12:33 pm

    Food is definitely more than fuel to me but not my life. Like yourself, I used to plan my life around mealtimes and leave no room for flexibility. I’m glad I saw the light and while I do prefer to sit down and enjoy a balanced meal, sometimes snacks/bars are more appropriate so I just roll with it.

  40. July 24, 2011 12:50 pm

    I’m with you – I like to eat at home and enjoy my meals, because I like to enjoy food – but if I need to pack up lunch (like I did every day last week!) it’s fine too – sometimes it’s fun to make something different and portable just cos..it’s different. Snackwise, i LIKE the excuse to not be at home cos it means I’ll eat through my bar stash :p Bars eaten at home are over too fast, but are perfect on the run πŸ™‚

  41. July 24, 2011 1:37 pm

    well having an ed background I guess food became an integral part of my existence, some people found strange how someone with anorexia would have to be home to eat. I am so glad that now I can eat whenever, if I forgot to bring something to eat I can go and choose something and can eat mostly amongst others.

    I defiantly believe that a balance is needed I never imagined back in the day that food could ever be enjoyable I would never be able to cook meals for myself my life revolved around food and yes to some degree it does now as without food you cannot survive and is needed to keep me happy in both body and mind, also from experience of being around people without disorderd eating so does their lives. The conversation’s we had going back from college were always about what they were eating

  42. July 24, 2011 2:38 pm

    Most of the time I am always on the run during the day so I pack snacks/lunches and eat them on the go or at work. For breakfast and dinner I always make it a point to sit down and enjoy my meals. If I had it my way, I would sit down and enjoy all my meals and snacks.

  43. July 24, 2011 2:56 pm

    Like so many others, during my ed it was all “eat to live”, taking in the bare minimum for survival. I think we can agree that is the wrong way to live. It takes the joy out of life. But we already know that. The opposite, “live to eat”, in it’s extreme, would automatically mean you believe in indulging your every food desire. This is also wrong. Food becomes an idol or your only reason to live. Selfish much?

    The balance between the two is different for everyone, whether leaning toward one side or the other. But the balance is necessary. For an athlete, food may be a fuel for high performance, naturally leaning toward the “eat to live” side. A cook on the other hand makes food for the purpose of creating a pleasurable experience, so he is leaning toward “live to eat”. But the athlete will still eat some cake and a cook will eat steamed broccoli. Because they both know there is a balance.

    I believe the balance is more intuitive than we give it credit for being. It is when the media gets involved (or friends and family even), telling us to eat this new super berry or eat celery for every meal, that our brains get messed up. And that is why so many people, such as us, write blogs and explore the balance between eating for health and enjoyment, or both at the same time! Because, at one point or another, our balance got messed up. We are just trying to find it again.

    • July 24, 2011 3:05 pm

      I had a really long “answer” that didn’t really answer the question : / Oh, well! Thanks for compelling me to write a random essay πŸ™‚

  44. July 24, 2011 5:30 pm

    I like to eat my meals slowly so that I can remember eating them. I find that if I eat too fast or while doing other things, I end up still hungry and unsatisfied. I prefer to be home while I eat my main meals, but snacks I don’t mind eating on the go. I do have somewhat of a schedualed meal plan, and I know that I usually cannot go longer than a few hours without some fuel. If for some reason I cannot eat at home, I make sure to find a place that I can sit down to enjoy my meals. i like to savor every bite πŸ™‚

  45. July 24, 2011 6:03 pm

    This is a great post. I’ve actually been trying to communicate this to my mom, and I’m going to have her come and read it as soon as I post up this comment. She tells me over and over again that food is just a “necessity”, that you eat it to keep you alive and no other reason. I’ve been trying to communicate to her that food can also be an enjoyable experience and source of pleasure–but she just sees this as twisted ED thoughts. *sigh*

    But I understand exactly what you mean; its exactly how I feel. Sure, I prefer to enjoy whatever meal I’m craving in a slow and leisurely fashion, but sometimes that doesn’t happen. Sometimes I have to scarf food down so I can get out the door. Sometimes I have to pack snacks. Heck, during the school year I’m out of the house from 8 AM until 4 PM–that’s a lot of packing! So, I can pack and eat on the run/in a hurry… but I prefer not to. I like to savor and enjoy my food, and I hate being rushed. This post articulates exactly what I’ve been trying to tell my mom for so long now!

  46. July 24, 2011 6:08 pm

    =) living to eat = way more fun that eating to live. I do need to learn how to eat mine more slowly though… i love things piping burn-my-mouth hot and dive in fast and furious too too often! lol

  47. July 24, 2011 6:54 pm

    I prefer to eat at home. And yeah, I totally live to eat.

  48. July 24, 2011 8:02 pm

    I’m with you with scheduling my day so that mealtimes will be when I want them. When I’m hungry I’m a grouchy girl!!! I like eating at home but going out now and then is really fun. πŸ™‚

  49. July 24, 2011 8:36 pm

    I agree with you about the importance of finding the balance between eating to live and living to eat. And I’m definitely with you on still seeking that balance. It seems as though finding balance in ANY act or situation is so difficult! But once found, it’s like…..Ahhhhh. Such a relief. πŸ™‚

  50. July 24, 2011 8:50 pm

    Aw sorry to hear you haven’t found a condo yet, but sometimes it takes a bit of time to find that perfect one πŸ™‚ And I’m sure you’ll find it soon!

    As far as the whole β€œeat to live” vs. β€œlive to eat” question…I think a good balance of both leads to a healthy and happy lifestyle πŸ™‚ We need food to fuel us through our busy days, but we also need to eat foods we enjoy eating. I need to learn to eat more slowly…ever since I was young I’ve scarfed down my food. It’s so hard to eat slower! haha

  51. July 24, 2011 9:15 pm

    eating while driving a stick!? That is impressive, I must say πŸ˜‰

    And I totally agree that a balance must be reached. Yes, it is good to love the food you eat, but you have to give that a back seat at times! That, I think, is the key to a healthy life :]

    Hope you have a wonderful Monday!

    Scott

  52. July 25, 2011 10:19 am

    I think striking the perfect balance between “living to eat” and “eating to live” is so important. It’s not an easy balance to strike at all! I try my best to make every meal delicious and REALLY eat what I’m craving, but I also realize this can’t always happen. I much more prefer home cooked meals to meals out but I also really love a nice meal out once in a while. I find that if it’s saved for every once in a while it’s that much more special πŸ™‚

  53. July 25, 2011 10:33 am

    I hope you find a place soon! It’s probably just not meant to be at this very second, but I’m sure you will find a place! It’s definitely hard to find a balance between the two. I like eating out but after I do it for a weekend or a vacation, I always crave something homemade and made by me.

  54. July 25, 2011 10:53 am

    I go in phases where I have to have the same foods a lot, or I get cranky. Like, even if I’m already full I still want to eat certain things in the morning or at night. weird. I tend to be pretty routine in what times I eat, and I always carry snacks with me because I don’t want to have to get something gross or expensive because I’m not prepared. Hence my energy bar obsession πŸ™‚
    Your kasha/ asparagus meal is so pretty and I want to try it! You look like a creative cook!

  55. The Teenage Taste permalink
    July 25, 2011 12:10 pm

    When it comes to eating I take a relaxed approach. Yes, I do view food mostly as nourishment for my body + mind but at times it is also nourishment for my soul.

  56. July 25, 2011 1:37 pm

    I’ve been searching for an “eat-to-live”/ “live-to-eat” balance for a loong time. There were years when I’d plan my days around meals and avoid any situation that inhibited me from eating “comfort foods” in familiar settings. Now, even though I prefer to prepare most of my meals, I almost almost always make people a priority. If there’s an event/party/trip that I want to partake in, there’s no way I’m going to miss it. However I always bring along a Luna bar, carrots, string cheese etc etc in my purse, just in case there’s nothing available that I want to eat. I used to worry about what others might think, but now I truly don’t care! I know that my choices are what make ME feel good–either physically (hello gluten allergy!), emotionally or both. πŸ™‚

    That said, I often wonder if I think about my meals and snacks a bit too much. I truly LOVE food–good food. I enjoy going out to restaurants and sampling different dishes, experimenting in the kitchen and discussing what I’ve eaten with others (which is why I enjoy blogging so much!). Sometimes I get so excited about food that I can’t decide what to eat! It’s at this point where I think “obsessing” might be an appropriate word to describe my relationship with it. But it’s one of my passions, and I think “obsess” and “passion” usually go hand in hand. πŸ™‚

  57. July 25, 2011 2:18 pm

    this post definitely makes me think about my eating. I have to admit that I have sometimes skipped out on things because it was easier for me to eat that way…I do eat 6-7 meals a day! But you are so right that food is not everything and there are more important things in life. thank you for the reminder. πŸ™‚

  58. July 25, 2011 2:49 pm

    I’m so glad I found your blog! I love this post because you’re so right–there should be a healthy balance between living to eat and eating to live. Food should be enjoyable and nourishing at the same time. πŸ™‚

    I love eating at home because that means we’re eating better food and not spending as much $!

  59. July 25, 2011 3:08 pm

    I’ve never really thought about that balance before. I enjoy food so much, you know? So I’d have to say I live to eat. Food is absolutely fuel, but you can still enjoy it and look forward to it. As long as your not abusing food, I think it’s okay to live to eat πŸ™‚

  60. July 25, 2011 5:04 pm

    I think the attitude should be “eat to live”…but I really enjoy food so I think sometimes it’s more “live to eat” πŸ™‚

    I eat most of my meals at home, but this is simply because ti saves me $$$

  61. July 25, 2011 6:00 pm

    We definitely believe in eat to live! Too many people out there believe in living to eat which creates a world of unhealthy people!

  62. July 25, 2011 10:46 pm

    Oh my gosh. Amanda, I absolutely ADORE your blog! You know exactly what I need when I need it. This post really spoke to me. Thank you for all of the hard work you put into it.

  63. July 25, 2011 11:50 pm

    Girl I completely agree with you! I used to stay home all day because of my eating disorders scheduled meal times. It was ridic.
    I’m a slow eater who enjoys sitting and enjoying a meal, but I’ve been crazy busy myself lately, which has made for many meals in the car, eating out, and almond butter and jelly sandwiches galore. But hey, that’s life sometimes! And I’m not going to miss out on life because food is getting in the way.

    eat to live AND live to eat, but don’t ONLY live to eat – there is so much more to live for!

  64. beckafly permalink
    July 26, 2011 7:35 am

    I’m in the middle on the debate. I eat to live, but I make sure I enjoy everything I eat. I also am mindful of what fuel I give my body. If I’m not excited/going to enjoy what I eat, I won’t eat it. There’s a balance between the two πŸ™‚

    I eat when I’m hungry which changes day to day. If I know I’m going to be out, I pack lunch and snacks. I tend to eat about the same whether I’m out or in.

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